Jay Fiset, this one's for you.
Before I started my personal growth journey, you might say I was feeling pretty victimized by my life. I had a big dental practice with all the human resource issues that entails, and a young family with what I saw at the time as some pretty heavy duty stuff going on. Staff would leave at work for a variety of good reasons like husbands getting transfered, or changing careers but instead of being able to be happy for them, all I could see was how hard it was going to make my life.
The Universe always sends you what you need, if you are smart enough to stop complaining and look around for it. I can guarantee you right now, the solution you are looking for is already within arms reach. Stop flailing around, pay attention to the breath hitting the small triangle under your nose and it will come to you. Easily and with clarity. In the silence if you can keep yourself rooted in the now and still your mind your intuition starts to sound really loud!
I had a friend that was within arms reach, who was different somehow than all the rest of the people I knew. He never took the easy way out, he walked right through. He spoke to people honestly when the rest of us were shying away from what needed to be said. He was the first man in my life who taught me that conflict could actually open and deepen a relationship instead of end it. When there was conflict he would end up on my doorstep, taking off his crab shell and asking all of the questions to get around behind mine so he could see where I was coming from. What a healing realization it was for me. When I asked how he learned all that he knew, he laughed and said Personal Best, but would say no more.
Early on in my journey, I bumped into Accountability in the first Personal Best Course. For me at that point, the entire meaning centered around the concept of keeping agreements with self and others. The example given was hitting the snooze button a hundred times, or not returning phone calls. Well, being someone who sets the clocks around the house thirty minutes ahead to trick myself into getting places on time I thought that was a concept I would probably get a lot out of.
I signed up for the Accountability Intensive and that weekend tilted my World on it's axis. Looking back now, nothing was ever the same after that. It turned out that instead of just keeping agreements, the accountability concept was about blame. Well, I was well versed in that concept! Maybe I should teach the course on that! I was a master at blame. I blamed staff, I blamed my spouse, I blamed God for where I was. I blamed myself most of all. I was trapped in my life.
Jay, I am going to give it my best shot to do justice to what you taught me, but I would suggest if the concept intruiges you and l know it will, read Jay Fiset's book "Reframe Your Blame" as it will give you much more detail. The basic concept is we are a blame based society. We are all looking for someone else or ourselves to pin all the garbage in our lives on. Jay opened my eyes to a different way of living.
What if for just a moment, we took the assumption that although everything seems random that we could assume there was some sort of pattern to it. Some divine cosmic meaning. That there never were, and never have been, any coincidences. Would that change how you felt about anything in your life? Let's take it one more step, and realize that every as event in your life that occurs, you are a willing participant in it for the sake of your own higher learning. What does that mean? It means that we co-create everything that happens to us with other people around us, every moment of every day. Let that sink in for a moment. The things you perceive as good and bad, you have had a hand in them all. Let's make that picture a bit bigger, step back one more step so we can really see what is going on. Do you have any conflicts with any members of your immediate family? Those can be some of the most blame generating conflicts. What if I told you that after listening to Jay, I believe that we actually get to pick our own family members based on what we have chosen to learn during this lifetime. That we actually sit up there with the Big Guy, and when we decide on our life path, he pulls out a list of Moms, Dads, Siblings, Aunts, Uncles etc and says "Now these would be okay, but if you really want to learn what you say you do, these right here are your best choices!" Now in the greater context, he doesn't tell them what he told you, but doesn't that change how you feel towards that person you are in conflict with? The next time you are in front of them, try thinking "Wow. Am I ever lucky to have you in my life. Whatever it is I am trying to learn (and if you have yet to figure it out, Jay's book will help you there too LOL) I have the absolutely best teacher standing right in front of me. Hand picked in fact by me. Instead of anger, you may find yourself feeling compassion and gratitude beyond anything you have ever known.
This concept saved me. It created so much healing in my life that the compassion and gratitude started bubbling up inside me and spilling out all of the cracks until I felt bursting with life. I didn't feel so run down and tired anymore. I had energy I didn't know what to do with. It was like someone relit the candle in my chest and suddenly it was a roaring flame with enough warmth to care for the whole world.
How this relates to my journey with my children was humbling. You see, in fact if what I believe is true, they chose me. Specifically chose me to accompany them on this journey of learning, and healing. Chose me because there was no better teacher. On the days where I feel overwhelmed, I sit in the awe of that, and I remember that in a Divine sense, he knows better than I, and I surrender to the adventure that stretches out before me. The things I have learned about myself, my children, my family and the world now all seem interconnected. Every course I take seems to approach the whole of the knowledge I have collected and fit perfectly into it like the edge of a precision jig saw puzzle piece. The picture is expanding, and with each piece I am getting more and more certain that there is a master plan. And that comfort and relief in that is hard to put into words. Let me just say this, I am gratefully receiving, gratefully receiving.
In love and light,
Kathryn
Before I started my personal growth journey, you might say I was feeling pretty victimized by my life. I had a big dental practice with all the human resource issues that entails, and a young family with what I saw at the time as some pretty heavy duty stuff going on. Staff would leave at work for a variety of good reasons like husbands getting transfered, or changing careers but instead of being able to be happy for them, all I could see was how hard it was going to make my life.
The Universe always sends you what you need, if you are smart enough to stop complaining and look around for it. I can guarantee you right now, the solution you are looking for is already within arms reach. Stop flailing around, pay attention to the breath hitting the small triangle under your nose and it will come to you. Easily and with clarity. In the silence if you can keep yourself rooted in the now and still your mind your intuition starts to sound really loud!
I had a friend that was within arms reach, who was different somehow than all the rest of the people I knew. He never took the easy way out, he walked right through. He spoke to people honestly when the rest of us were shying away from what needed to be said. He was the first man in my life who taught me that conflict could actually open and deepen a relationship instead of end it. When there was conflict he would end up on my doorstep, taking off his crab shell and asking all of the questions to get around behind mine so he could see where I was coming from. What a healing realization it was for me. When I asked how he learned all that he knew, he laughed and said Personal Best, but would say no more.
Early on in my journey, I bumped into Accountability in the first Personal Best Course. For me at that point, the entire meaning centered around the concept of keeping agreements with self and others. The example given was hitting the snooze button a hundred times, or not returning phone calls. Well, being someone who sets the clocks around the house thirty minutes ahead to trick myself into getting places on time I thought that was a concept I would probably get a lot out of.
I signed up for the Accountability Intensive and that weekend tilted my World on it's axis. Looking back now, nothing was ever the same after that. It turned out that instead of just keeping agreements, the accountability concept was about blame. Well, I was well versed in that concept! Maybe I should teach the course on that! I was a master at blame. I blamed staff, I blamed my spouse, I blamed God for where I was. I blamed myself most of all. I was trapped in my life.
Jay, I am going to give it my best shot to do justice to what you taught me, but I would suggest if the concept intruiges you and l know it will, read Jay Fiset's book "Reframe Your Blame" as it will give you much more detail. The basic concept is we are a blame based society. We are all looking for someone else or ourselves to pin all the garbage in our lives on. Jay opened my eyes to a different way of living.
What if for just a moment, we took the assumption that although everything seems random that we could assume there was some sort of pattern to it. Some divine cosmic meaning. That there never were, and never have been, any coincidences. Would that change how you felt about anything in your life? Let's take it one more step, and realize that every as event in your life that occurs, you are a willing participant in it for the sake of your own higher learning. What does that mean? It means that we co-create everything that happens to us with other people around us, every moment of every day. Let that sink in for a moment. The things you perceive as good and bad, you have had a hand in them all. Let's make that picture a bit bigger, step back one more step so we can really see what is going on. Do you have any conflicts with any members of your immediate family? Those can be some of the most blame generating conflicts. What if I told you that after listening to Jay, I believe that we actually get to pick our own family members based on what we have chosen to learn during this lifetime. That we actually sit up there with the Big Guy, and when we decide on our life path, he pulls out a list of Moms, Dads, Siblings, Aunts, Uncles etc and says "Now these would be okay, but if you really want to learn what you say you do, these right here are your best choices!" Now in the greater context, he doesn't tell them what he told you, but doesn't that change how you feel towards that person you are in conflict with? The next time you are in front of them, try thinking "Wow. Am I ever lucky to have you in my life. Whatever it is I am trying to learn (and if you have yet to figure it out, Jay's book will help you there too LOL) I have the absolutely best teacher standing right in front of me. Hand picked in fact by me. Instead of anger, you may find yourself feeling compassion and gratitude beyond anything you have ever known.
This concept saved me. It created so much healing in my life that the compassion and gratitude started bubbling up inside me and spilling out all of the cracks until I felt bursting with life. I didn't feel so run down and tired anymore. I had energy I didn't know what to do with. It was like someone relit the candle in my chest and suddenly it was a roaring flame with enough warmth to care for the whole world.
How this relates to my journey with my children was humbling. You see, in fact if what I believe is true, they chose me. Specifically chose me to accompany them on this journey of learning, and healing. Chose me because there was no better teacher. On the days where I feel overwhelmed, I sit in the awe of that, and I remember that in a Divine sense, he knows better than I, and I surrender to the adventure that stretches out before me. The things I have learned about myself, my children, my family and the world now all seem interconnected. Every course I take seems to approach the whole of the knowledge I have collected and fit perfectly into it like the edge of a precision jig saw puzzle piece. The picture is expanding, and with each piece I am getting more and more certain that there is a master plan. And that comfort and relief in that is hard to put into words. Let me just say this, I am gratefully receiving, gratefully receiving.
In love and light,
Kathryn
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