I have to vent my energy around this today. Normally I try to see the upside of most situations. This morning I am so angry I could scream. Yesterday, the third person in my office had their child officially diagnosed with Autism. And for the third time, I heard exactly the same scenario.
"I am very sorry to inform you that the completion of your testing has revealed to us that your child has Autism. Here is our Welcome to Autism package and at the end you will find a lovely reading list. Good luck!"
That's it. Welcome to the club. No assistance. No here is where you go for services, let's get you signed right up! After three years of trying to get this diagnosis I am sure you are anxious to get started!
When she told me, it was like a PTS ( post traumatic stress ) moment. I wanted to escape. I actually sat and cried in the car on my way home. How could this be what happens to people in a province with a Center of Excellence for Autism? How hard could this be? I don't diagnose cavities and then send people out the door saying "good luck! Hope those don't get too bad for you!" NO! We tell you what types of fillings you can have, what they cost, how long it will take to treat you and we book you. That is called diagnosis and treatment.
We seem to have an exceptional diagnostic arm ( once you actually find your way in- which in our case took 8 years of digging and begging) and an amputated limb on the other side. No treatment other than what you can cobble together.
In January at the Autism conference in Edmonton there was a parent conference on the last day. Experienced parents who stayed behind to share their stories and help the rest of us figure some of this out. I stood up at the end, and I couldn't help it. Half way through my question I was standing exposed in the middle of the room feeling like a total idiot, bawling, so emotional I could hardly choke out the words. Where do I go from here? How do I find help? Five parents in the room told me that I was not alone. One set of parents had non-verbal twins. They too were told the same story and given the same damn reading list.
There is an Autism Follow up clinic. The name sounded promising. When we called they said, no, this is actually a misnomer. We don't follow you up, we are just here in case you have a specific question. Actually, I have a thousand questions. My child has just been diagnosed with Autism!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! The family with non verbal twins told me that it takes the average family two years to sort things out, find a connection, funding and services on their own or with help from other Autism families. What about two parent working familiies? Who sorts all of this out and does all the research to figure out where to start?
Sometimes these moments bring incredible clarity for me. Anger and chaos roiling in my gut may just birth something worthwhile. This cannot continue for the families and children of Alberta. We need to create some sort of safety net as the numbers of these children being diagnosed is escalating. These families need help and more than that, they need hope.
In love and light,
Kathryn
"I am very sorry to inform you that the completion of your testing has revealed to us that your child has Autism. Here is our Welcome to Autism package and at the end you will find a lovely reading list. Good luck!"
That's it. Welcome to the club. No assistance. No here is where you go for services, let's get you signed right up! After three years of trying to get this diagnosis I am sure you are anxious to get started!
When she told me, it was like a PTS ( post traumatic stress ) moment. I wanted to escape. I actually sat and cried in the car on my way home. How could this be what happens to people in a province with a Center of Excellence for Autism? How hard could this be? I don't diagnose cavities and then send people out the door saying "good luck! Hope those don't get too bad for you!" NO! We tell you what types of fillings you can have, what they cost, how long it will take to treat you and we book you. That is called diagnosis and treatment.
We seem to have an exceptional diagnostic arm ( once you actually find your way in- which in our case took 8 years of digging and begging) and an amputated limb on the other side. No treatment other than what you can cobble together.
In January at the Autism conference in Edmonton there was a parent conference on the last day. Experienced parents who stayed behind to share their stories and help the rest of us figure some of this out. I stood up at the end, and I couldn't help it. Half way through my question I was standing exposed in the middle of the room feeling like a total idiot, bawling, so emotional I could hardly choke out the words. Where do I go from here? How do I find help? Five parents in the room told me that I was not alone. One set of parents had non-verbal twins. They too were told the same story and given the same damn reading list.
There is an Autism Follow up clinic. The name sounded promising. When we called they said, no, this is actually a misnomer. We don't follow you up, we are just here in case you have a specific question. Actually, I have a thousand questions. My child has just been diagnosed with Autism!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! The family with non verbal twins told me that it takes the average family two years to sort things out, find a connection, funding and services on their own or with help from other Autism families. What about two parent working familiies? Who sorts all of this out and does all the research to figure out where to start?
Sometimes these moments bring incredible clarity for me. Anger and chaos roiling in my gut may just birth something worthwhile. This cannot continue for the families and children of Alberta. We need to create some sort of safety net as the numbers of these children being diagnosed is escalating. These families need help and more than that, they need hope.
In love and light,
Kathryn
